Anyone who doesn’t love themselves first, will not be able to love someone else easily. freely. and unconditionally.
Because most of us weren’t raised with this understanding, we had to discover and embrace it. Congratulations for arriving at this point. Give yourself grace.
We aren’t taught these valuable skills and it shows. I think that’s why we feel the urge to share our experiences and what we discovered along way. Thank you so much for reading and commenting with my work. It means the world to me!
haha not every way but loose, I’m sorry this resonates. That sucks. But hey I think our connection on TikTok might have had some deeper reasons if we are both learning how to navigate these waters. It’s not easy and it requires community for sure so thank you for being in community with me - and we didn’t have to trauma bond about it! <3
Wow. Many times we mama's were trying to find our way as we tried to lead our children's lives too. The blind leading the blind...which cause brokenness and unresolved pain. Wish there was a do-over....
As a mother myself, I’m able to see this and extend grace to mine. However, once it’s been brought to your attention and you still continue to move the same way disregarding the boundaries set this has to be expected. As a daughter, I can’t teach my daughter to accept this kind of behavior and tell her it’s called love. Especially, when she experiences a completely different type of love from me. So I’m sure you are personally doing a lot more with this level of self-awareness, unfortunately, I don’t have that mother and this is my acceptance of that. It just can’t continue to be the excuse and it seems it will remain my mom’s reasoning for not doing better now.
That’s not the goal. I’m sorry it resonated so much this is such a sad place to be. Sending you a lot of love and grace during this time friend! 🫶🏾 thank you for reading and commenting nonetheless!
I understand this on a heart level. Protect your peace and safety. It sounds like you’re still a diligent daughter, but your peace does matter above all. Being a diligent daughter, IF you choose, does not mean subjecting yourself to emotional daggers thrown by your mother. I’ve learned this as a daughter of a mother who does not understand or appreciate this sentiment. Love yourself first.
This is the true liminal space I’m in now…still caring without allowing it to be mishandled. I’ve been no contact and after losing my dad that just doesn’t feel right. It’s a confusing place to be in however I’m grateful for the clarity I have about what’s going on. Thank you for sharing your story!
Thank you, I’ve been thinking about you and our conversations throughout this process. Your insight allowed me to keep a soft heart with my mom but a softer one for myself. ❤️
I’m having similar sentiments about my own mom, figuring out to keep boundaries set until I can move. You’re not wrong! Sometimes mama gotta go because just like mama will protect herself, you have to do the same. Wishing you the best in your new season! 🫂💕
Now that space I know too well and I’m sending you a lot of grace because that’s what I’m learning has been helping me the most. Boundaries are hard when you aren’t used to being the one establishing them for yourself. It’s a skill set that must be learned and often we are forced to learn that skill set while trying to enforce it. We have to extend grace not only to the people involved but to ourselves when we “fall short” or don’t say no. You got this love! And when you don’t think you do - your own will remind you! ❤️❤️❤️
Anyone who doesn’t love themselves first, will not be able to love someone else easily. freely. and unconditionally.
Because most of us weren’t raised with this understanding, we had to discover and embrace it. Congratulations for arriving at this point. Give yourself grace.
We aren’t taught these valuable skills and it shows. I think that’s why we feel the urge to share our experiences and what we discovered along way. Thank you so much for reading and commenting with my work. It means the world to me!
I’ve navigated/navigating similar waters. those first 3 paragraphs turned me every way, but loose. oohwee. Thank you so much for sharing.
haha not every way but loose, I’m sorry this resonates. That sucks. But hey I think our connection on TikTok might have had some deeper reasons if we are both learning how to navigate these waters. It’s not easy and it requires community for sure so thank you for being in community with me - and we didn’t have to trauma bond about it! <3
Wow. Many times we mama's were trying to find our way as we tried to lead our children's lives too. The blind leading the blind...which cause brokenness and unresolved pain. Wish there was a do-over....
As a mother myself, I’m able to see this and extend grace to mine. However, once it’s been brought to your attention and you still continue to move the same way disregarding the boundaries set this has to be expected. As a daughter, I can’t teach my daughter to accept this kind of behavior and tell her it’s called love. Especially, when she experiences a completely different type of love from me. So I’m sure you are personally doing a lot more with this level of self-awareness, unfortunately, I don’t have that mother and this is my acceptance of that. It just can’t continue to be the excuse and it seems it will remain my mom’s reasoning for not doing better now.
Your peace is the only thing that matters at this point.
That’s what I’ve been reminding myself. My daughter needs HER mama and she deserves peace too. Thank you Mia!
wowww resonated with this a little too much 💔
That’s not the goal. I’m sorry it resonated so much this is such a sad place to be. Sending you a lot of love and grace during this time friend! 🫶🏾 thank you for reading and commenting nonetheless!
This feels so familiar. Good on you for protecting your peace. ❤️
Thank you!!! But I hate it feels familiar. Good for us for choosing us ❤️
you deserve to provide yourself the protection they refused to give you
That part “they refused to give you” makes my eyes tear up every time. Mainly because I now understand this to be true.
I understand this on a heart level. Protect your peace and safety. It sounds like you’re still a diligent daughter, but your peace does matter above all. Being a diligent daughter, IF you choose, does not mean subjecting yourself to emotional daggers thrown by your mother. I’ve learned this as a daughter of a mother who does not understand or appreciate this sentiment. Love yourself first.
This is the true liminal space I’m in now…still caring without allowing it to be mishandled. I’ve been no contact and after losing my dad that just doesn’t feel right. It’s a confusing place to be in however I’m grateful for the clarity I have about what’s going on. Thank you for sharing your story!
I’m so proud and happy for you. I love the peace and clarity a step back and setting boundaries will bring. I’m here if you need to vent♥️
Thank you, I’ve been thinking about you and our conversations throughout this process. Your insight allowed me to keep a soft heart with my mom but a softer one for myself. ❤️
I’m glad I could provide that with all your providing for me and my vision.
Imagine how much your vision is going to do this for others too!
I’m not sure but even if it touches one person it serves its purpose . So again my deepest gratitude!
I’m having similar sentiments about my own mom, figuring out to keep boundaries set until I can move. You’re not wrong! Sometimes mama gotta go because just like mama will protect herself, you have to do the same. Wishing you the best in your new season! 🫂💕
Now that space I know too well and I’m sending you a lot of grace because that’s what I’m learning has been helping me the most. Boundaries are hard when you aren’t used to being the one establishing them for yourself. It’s a skill set that must be learned and often we are forced to learn that skill set while trying to enforce it. We have to extend grace not only to the people involved but to ourselves when we “fall short” or don’t say no. You got this love! And when you don’t think you do - your own will remind you! ❤️❤️❤️
Period on peace ❤️❤️❤️ wishing you so much healing
Thank you so much! I love your handle “an undoing” that’s exactly what this is. ❤️
whewwww. Felt! All the way down